Child custody matters can be difficult to work through, but this can be a bit easier if both parents decide that they are going to put the children first. There are several things that you might be able to do that could help make things a bit less stressful.

One of the most important things to do is to remember that both adults are going to have to give and take some. Neither person can have their way in every matter. Try to weigh the options and determine how each one might affect the children.

For some parents, the memories of the marriage and what led to the end of it are what makes things so difficult. You have to find a way to let them go so that you can focus on parenting. It might help you to remember that a horrible spouse can still be a fantastic parent.

As you’re working on the custody arrangement, you’re going to have to come up with the rules that govern the child. Make sure that you propose rules that you’ve thought about carefully. Try to avoid anything that could have a double meaning or that might be construed a different way later.

The parenting plan that you decide on should address the child’s current needs. You can work with your ex if the child’s needs change, and the agreement needs to be modified. Your attorney can work with you to ensure that you have everything in order now and help you learn about what changes might require a modification in the future.